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Cautionary Tales For Children
Wonderful witty poems great for reading to your children. The stories and rhymes will stay with them for the rest of their lives.

Research has shown how important YOU are to your children and how as a dad the things you do, and keep on doing, really count, whether you live with them, or you are a single dad and are only able see them once a month, once a week or more, what you do really matters. This site is dedicated to all dads but will be of special relevance to the single dad. Remember, you are half the reason your children exist and they need you whether you live with them or not. As their dad, you have what it takes to make their lives successful and fulfilling no matter how often you see them. This site is about all the positive things that we as parents have to offer our children.
Very important rules for using the Reward Chart
Never take a sticker off the Reward Chart for bad behaviour
Never take a sticker off the Reward Chart for bad behaviour
The Reward Chart is an affirmation of positive behaviour and a reward for that.

Do not use the Reward Chart to bribe your child
Only put stars or stickers on the Chart for things that are done in accordance with the Chart, because this will introduce inconsistencies in the reward system.

Get buy in from other carers
Once again this is down to consistency and helping your child to know what is, and what is not generally acceptable behaviour. It may be impossible to get everyone on side with the star chart, and of course it depends on what behaviours you trying to correct. If they are general behaviours that carry across from home to home, then some degree of cooperation is going to be vital to the success of the system. However, it's not always imperative to be completely aligned.

. . . If you are separated from your partner (the child's other parent) then your child will very quickly learn that different rules apply at both their homes, and as long as the basic rules of respect and thoughtfulness apply then some variation is a good thing. As long as important rules are consistent, it's not necessarily a bad thing to show them that life is flexible when the situation demands it. If you use the Reward Chart booklet so that it can be taken back and forth (by your child) from home to home then it is very important to discuss the aims of the Chart and the tasks and reward strategy with your child’s other parent or carer to make sure that the Chart is equally valid in both homes and that the rules are being applied equally.

Never ever make your love conditional on achieving the goals set out on the chart
Your children need and deserve your unconditional love and it is very damaging for a child to think that he or she has to earn your love. It is right to teach your children that they need to earn your respect and approval and that this is to a large extent a two way street, but your love must be given unconditionally as a framework, within which they can grow and flourish.

If the Chart doesn’t seem to be working you might need to change the targets
You should talk to your child about any changes. The Reward Chart is intended to give them rewards for doing the right thing, but it only works if it is in their power to do the thing you have agreed. If it doesn’t appear to be working, then at first try doing the things with your child, so that you can see what the problem is, and then after a chat about it agree how you are going to change it to make it easier to achieve success.

. . . If you are experiencing significant behaviour problems then remember that you can always consult your family doctor (GP) or discuss the problem in confidence with one of the child’s teachers or a health visitor.


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Playing & doing stuff
Playing games is a very important part of being a child. Through game playing children learn about strategy, the joy of winning, how to cope with losing, negotiation techniques and how to notice and understand a whole range of social cues, all of which will significantly improve the way they get along with people as they grow up. Playing games also develops the imagination. When kids play a game together they build a whole story round their game, each person has a character, a purpose and motives, all playing out their parts in the rich landscape of their imaginations.

research has shown that degree and quality of playtime a child has with its father is a vital factor in determining the growing child’s sense of self-worth and confidence

Almost anything you do with your kids can and should be partly game (think of Mary Poppins finding fun in every chore), but it is important to set time aside for your kids when you are just playing with them for the sake of playing, rather than instructing them or caring for them. When you play together you enter their world and understand so much more about them and how they think, and you give them your undivided attention, some of the highest quality time your child can get. Scientific research studies have repeatedly shown that the degree and quality of playtime a child has with its father is a vital factor in determining the growing child’s sense of self-worth and confidence.

Having your children's friends round for tea

You don’t need to wait for a special occasion party to organise some games or activities. Having friends over for tea or the afternoon at the weekend is an important part of your children’s social life. They won’t need much encouragement to invite their friends over to your house. They’ll be proud to show off their other home and proud to show off their dad and the fun things that you do together. At times like these it is good to have a few games or Doing Activities ready to go, instead of letting them play on the games console all afternoon. You could plan to do one of the Making projects, (there are some that only need a piece of paper) or you could try out one of the party games in this section as an activity. You’ll find some great games in the Children’s Parties page like the Egyptian Mummy game or the Treasure Hunt, either of which are perfect for when your kid has his or her friends over for tea.

Or maybe it's just time to put your feet up and relax together

When you’re all done and you all just want to put your feet up and cuddle up on the sofa, then watching a great film with your kids or reading a lovely story to them is a wonderful way to spend time together. We hope you'll find find our weekly review of films and books useful in finding a good film or book to curl up with.

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